IT'S ALL ABOUT ME
I HAVE CLOSED MY HEART TO LIFE
I EXPLOIT, ABUSE, AND USE OTHERS
FOR MY OWN SELFISH GAIN
- Clarifying Terminology
- THE SELFISH EGO PROGRAM
- THE EGO SYMBOLISED BY THE REPTILE
- Egotism: Humanity's Most Dangerous Enemy
- The Non-Sattvic Ego
- Egoism: The worst sort of specialness
- Egoism: A Fear based attitude
- UNHEALTHY SELF OBSESSION
- Anti-Social AND ANTI-LIFE Behaviour
- Egotism and Personality Disorder
- Egotism and PRIDE
- THE EGOTISTICAL ATTITUDE
- Ego Consciousness v's Soul and Spiritual Consciousness
- What are the experiences of ego consciousness?
- What are the Experiences of Soul and Spiritual Consciousness?
- Related Study and Further Reading
In western psychology, the ego means the central sense of being an individual, but in spiritual vocabulary, the ego tends to refer to narcissism (self-obsession/self-infatuation) and the sum total of all our selfish desires, aversions, and attachments (to people, places, experiences, and things in this world). These selfish desires, aversions, and attachments are called "impurities of body, heart, mind, and soul."
Our aim is, by the process of study and purification, to understand and abandon; selfish desires, aversions, attachments, self-obsession, narcissism, damaged and stunted conscience, and lack of care and compassion for self and others, and replace them with healthy desires and aversions, and the understanding and development of the qualities of "the warm, caring, and considerate heart", so that we can experience loving, caring, sincere, and meaningful relationships with others, and lasting happiness, because:
Who is the happiest person? The one who can love and take care of themself and bring love and happiness to others. As the wise say; "As within, so without".
This is only achievable by having the humility to learn, understanding the human experience, overcoming the generic ignorance and selfishness, conscious self mastery, and nurturing and developing the qualities of "the healthy and wise warm heart."
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By using the time tested and proven, seven center (chakra) system of conscious self-development, every soul can understand and overcome all the worst of selfish egotism and make real all the very best of the human experience lived with holistic health, balance, knowledge, skill, virtue, love, wisdom, and Enlightenment for good of one and all - and it's all COMPLETELY FREE for the benefit of all living beings.
THE SELFISH EGO PROGRAM
Part of the psychoemotional structure of the human experience is a "program" called "Selfish Egotism". Just like a computer program, it runs on the software of the emotional heart, the mind, and the soul. What is it's purpose? It is an educational program that teaches the soul the difference and consequences of good and bad behaviour. It is through this program that the soul learns to understand the difference between behaviours that are:
- Good and bad
- Selfish and selfless
- Wise and unwise
- Life supporting and life-destroying
Selfishness IS badness, wickedness, and the path to evil. Selfishness breeds: abuse, exploitation, lies, manipulations, and all other bad behaviour. Don't downplay or underestimate the ultimate bad end that selfish behaviour leads to. When a person puts themselves before all others, then how can you trust, like, or even love a person with that completely mercenary attitude to life?
When you spot that a friend, family member, or work colleague is ultimately selfish and egocentric then it is my advice that you defend and distance yourself from that person and treat them quite differently to how you would treat a non-selfish person, because the naricissistic egocentric selfish person ultimately cares for NOBODY ELSE apart from themselves and see others simply as stepping stones and resources that they use for their own selfish ends. It is obviously wise to have as little to do with a person like that and if you are forced to interact with them, treat them as coldly and firmly as you would a wolf in sheeps clothing - they are not your friend or ally, they serve ONLY THEMSELVES, thus treat them accordingly.
Once we understand these differences of behaviour and their consequences then we can overcome and destroy the "selfish egotism program" by a process of conscious, holistic purification. Then we become good and wise and are in a position to help others do the same. This is all part of the spiritual education of the soul within the human experience.
When we have learned that which the "Ego Program" is teaching us, then the "Ego Program" drops away, automatically deletes itself, from our personality.
THE EGO SYMBOLISED BY THE REPTILE
Within Spiritual Traditions throughout history, we find the same image of the Ego being represented by a reptile and the soul battling with it and eventually overcoming its selfish nature.
The reptile represents the reptilian part of our brain that is only concerned with basic survival mechanisms and thoughtless sensory gratification. Reptiles often eat their children, that is the level of the reptilian brain; unconcerned, no conscience, no feelings for others, cold, heartless, mercenary, completely egocentric.
The symbolism of the human part of our nature overcoming and killing the reptilian part represents our struggle to understand and control this part of the human experience - overcoming the selfish ego and consciously managing the sensory desirous part of our mind (Manas).
This is achieved by understanding the situation and then purifying our body, mind, heart, and soul, so that we are never afflicted by this terribly dangerous psychological entity.
The spiritual reason for this experience is to teach the soul the real importance of overcoming selfishness, the power and happy experience of Virtue-Peace-Love-Wisdom-Enlightenment.
Egotism: Humanity's Most Dangerous Enemy
Egotism is the deluded state of seperation from heart, soul, wisdom, love, life, conscience, honesty, goodness, responsible relationships with others and the world, enlightenment, spiritual reality, and ultimately God/Higher Self. It is the number one problem (mental delusion) for all souls having this human experience and it is from egotism that all other deluded, vicious, and sinful states of mind arise. The problem is that of disconnection from heart, soul, and God, and the arising of self-obsession, narcissism, and selfish mercenary desire.
The solution is to discover and heal the heart chakra and abandon our selfish desire in favour of love - the genuine wish to serve health and happiness to all
In western psychology, the ego means the individual, but in spiritual vocabulary, the ego is the sum total of all our selfish desires and attachments (to people, places, experiences, and things in this world). These selfish desires and attachments are called "impurities of body, heart, mind, and soul."
To eliminate our ego we simply need to purify, let go of, all these impurities. I have listed most of these impurities and the opposite healthy behaviour on the HELM PURIFICATION PAGE...
With understanding of the goal (to purify body, heart, mind, and soul) and a regular, steady practice, this achievement is not difficult.
Once the body, heart, mind, and soul - the individual - is purified then Enlightenment/Self Realization can be achieved much easier indeed.
"Egotism is the motivation to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself. Egotism means placing oneself at the center of one's world with no direct concern for others. It is closely related to narcissism (unhealthy and distorted self-obsession that is not healthy self love), and the possible tendency to speak or write of oneself boastfully and at great length. Egotism may coexist with delusions of one's own importance, even at the denial of others. This conceit is a character trait describing a person who acts to gain values in an amount excessively greater than that which he/she gives to others. Egotism is often accomplished by exploiting the altruism, irrationality and ignorance of others, as well as utilizing coercive force and/or fraud." - Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Egotism
Egotism is the deluded state of seperation from heart, soul, wisdom, love, life, enlightenment, and God. It is the number one problem (mental delusion) for all souls having this human experience and it is from egotism that all other deluded, vicious, and undesirable states of mind arise.
Selfish attitude, inconsiderate of others, always wanting but never giving, narcissistic self obsession. An excessive or exaggerated sense of self-importance and anti-social inconsideration of others. Egotism is often accompanied by a very selfish and mercenary attitude to life. In extreme forms, egoism may include narcissism, antisocial and psychopathological behavior - complete and dangerous inconsideration of the lives and well-being of others. Selfishness, possessiveness, and attachment.
The ego doesn't love anything. It is possessive, controlling, vicious, selfish, and an entirely false and distorted experience of individuality. As an individual, The Real Self is the soul not the delusion of egoism. Understanding and overcoming egoism is a very important part of self development.
THE NON-SATTVIC EGO
In terms of the Yoga Gunas, the Ego thrives on Tamas (selfish aversion) and Rajas (selfish desire) gunas. This is why the Enlightened inform us to create and maintain a Sattvic, Spiritual lifestyle. Then we will be less entangled with the Selfish Ego and create an inner space to analyze, understand, purify, and overcome it.
Egoism: The worst sort of specialness
Egoism wants to be special and different in the worst type of ways, not as a beautiful expression of unique individuality, but in sick, dreadful, horrible, delinquent, and completely ignorant and selfish ways. The final word concerning "the ego paradigm" is that it is a state of mind of separation from the spiritual reality of life. The ego is separated from God's joyful laws of happiness, love, peace, fulfillment, consideration, and wisdom - the laws of mutual and cooperative good fortune. The ego is delusion, sickness, selfishness, self-obsession, and vice - everything that is not LoveWisdomGoodness and Spiritual Enlightenment.
Egoism: A Fear based attitude
Ego consciousness is fear based. Rooted in the fear that there is no soul, no reincarnation, no God, and no spiritual laws of justice and consequence (the Divine Laws of Karma). Ultimately, ego-consciousness is a fear-based, delusion and blindness to the bigger picture of life. Because the ego-consciousness is based on the false understanding of a non-spiritual reality, then when we live in this state of mind, we are in effect, living from a delusion based upon a lie, a falseness, a sham.
There will always be terrible pain and suffering on all levels of our being, until we release ouselves from the false perceptions of ego-consciousness, and accept the spiritual reality of soul and spirit. The soul is not dependent upon the physical body for it's existence. There is freedom, love, peace, and understanding within the spiritual truths of Life - it is your decision as to what to believe. It is my deepest wish that you at least try the spiritual paradigm for a while and just see how you get on with it. If, like me, you begin to relax into eternity, begin to realise that there is so much goodness to experience - an eternity of goodness - and perhaps realise that we are just awakening to the spiritual realities of life, then you may feel much happier. In this case, I suggest you stay with it, simply give it a go and see what happens. You will never regret it for one minute within eternity...
UNHEALTHY SELF OBSESSION
Egotism is a painful mentality and radically reduces the healthy enjoyment of life for everybody.
- When I think only of myself then I am miserable, narcissistic, selfish, and vain – there is no real happiness in this attitude.
- When I think of others with warmth, compassion, and love then I experience meaningful connection, kind heartedness, giving, happiness, and a deep peace – this is good.
- Life is an opportunity to love.
- The grasping hand is never full. To be full it must give .
A psychological illness of "distorted self-love" and self-obsessed self-infatuation.
Anti-Social AND ANTI-LIFE Behaviour
EGOTISM AND PERSONALITY DISORDERS
Some people are diagnosed by psychiatrists with a personality disorder. This is NOT an excuse to overlook selfish behaviour. Even if a person has a personality disorder of cognitive/mental/social disorder you can still spot whether that person is selfish in their behaviour if they can remember and serve all their own selfish desires and aversions - whilst forgetting and being unable to relate to others in a normal, non-selfish manner.
I have personally met several clients who had diagnosed personality disorders, but they could remember, organize, and attempt to meet all their selfish desires and aversions, although they claimed that they could not remember facts and figures, dates and organization, of anything that DID NOT relate to their selfish egotism - can you see how selishness operates through even diagnosed mental disorders? In fact, most mental/social/personality disorders have a strong core of selfish, narcissistic, and egocentric behaviour and relationship to the world and others. This is oftern called "narcissism".
Egotism and PRIDE
The person who is too proud to acknowledge their faults and weaknesses cannot improve and it is difficult for them to ask for help concerning their problems. They are too concerned and self-conscious about their self image (how they appear to themselves and others) to realize that their pride is preventing them from learning and growing.
They quickly develop egotism and personality disorders.
THE EGOTISTICAL ATTITUDE
"This little me, all puffed up with selfishness and self-importance, in the delusion of separation from the great Ocean of Life - unloving, narcissistic, vain, conceited - thinking only of me, me, me!"
Ego Consciousness v's Soul and Spiritual Consciousness
Ego consciousness is all that is not LoveWisdomGoodness and Spiritual comprehension. It involves the individual being separated from soul realistion, spiritual reality, and LoveWisdomGoodness. It is like being stuck on an island, cut off from the mainland of Spiritual Reality. The individual believes that they are the physical body, that "one life is all you get and then we die", selfish behaviour predominates, and our spiritual heart center is blocked. The individual rushes through life, completely inconsiderate to others, and grasps at all their selfish desires. Nothing satisfies and eventual the individual becomes more and more unhappy and desperate. At this point, the individual may become depressed, begin to realise that ego consciousness does not make a happy and fulfilling life, and may even have spontaneous spiritual experiences or a spiritual awakening, as Spirit intervenes in order to help the individual gain insight into their unhappiness, and guide them to overcome the experience.
Each individual can choose to serve "selfish egotism consciousness" or, when we are ready to, we can choose "virtue-love-wisdom-enlightenment". Consciously, wisely, and lovingly balancing our needs and happiness with the same for others. Consciously choosing to live as a healthy, loving, wise, and helpful member of the family of life on earth and whatever other life we may chance upon!
Experiencing a healthy, harmless, balanced, meaningful, deeply good, happy, frequently joyful, deeply appreciative, helpful, skillful, supportive, loving, deeply interesting, engaged, infinitely satisfying, FULL AND OVERFLOWING, and wise life.being aware of our identity as a soul and our deeply appreciative and humbling interdependence with everything; all others, the ecosystem of this world, life, the universe, and Everything - that which is the nameless namer; (God, Buddha, Tao, Allah, Spirit, The Great I AM) and is the real, permanent, and deepest identity of All Living Beings.
The answer to the question "Why does ego consciousness exist?" is answered by realising that it is a state of mind that is characterised by IGNORANCE: a lack of knowledge and understanding concerning how to live in peace, happiness, friendliness, wisdom, and mutually beneficial cooperative activity that solves EVERYBODYS PROBLEMS.
We can give up the SELFISH EGOTISM approach to life whenever we are ready to do so, if we sincerely form the intention to move away from ego consciousness then life (and the benevolent living universe or "Spirit-of-All-Life") will begin to educate and guide us out of our unpleasant and miserable "selfish egotism" experience.
What are the experiences of ego consciousness?
Everything that is not LoveWisdomGoodness, Peace, and Enlightenment. For example:
- Wrath: Persistent and non-specific anger, blame, judgement, prejudice, condemnation, violence, and hatred. A constant state of projecting all our intense negative feelings and self-dislike upon others.
- Inferiority/Superiority Complex: Constant competitive comparison with others: Highly competitive personality, not just in secular life, but in social life also. Petty, conceited, infantile, "one upmanship", narcissistic, vain, has to feel better than everybody around them, tyrannical, immature, pathological liar, and constantly putting other people down to make them feel superiour. The very root of the inferior/superiority complex. This constant social comparison produces emotions like anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, self-dislike and depression.
- Personality Disorders.
- Selfish Greedy Grasping: We try to satisfy all our selfish desires and aversion, but we find only unhappiness and an unfulfilling experience.
- Vice and undesirable Attitudes: The individual may find their lives and experiences becoming increasingly full of vice and viciousness.
- Isolation, self-pity, depression, and "the pain of separation": The individual acutely feels this "pain of separation" which is real. The individual soul within ego-consciousness is separated by this state of mind from the spiritual realities of the soul, reincarnation and eternal life, LoveWisdomGoodness, and the spiritual realizations.
The decision to want to develop out of the isolation and unhappiness of ego-consciousness (to rise from the Fall into Spiritual Ignorance and Darkness) comes from deep within the individual's soul. This guides and moves the individual in advance of this decision being realised in the conscious waking state. The soul is desiring to throw off this heavy, dark cloak of ego-consciousness, and to connect with life in loving, satisfying, and meaningful ways.
Once the decision is made then this intent creates the ability for the healing to take place. The soul is completely connected to the interdependent network that is spiritual reality and circumstances begin to support the soul in their healing journey of meaningful and satisfying interconnectivity with life and the real nature of everything which is what we can call "spiritual reality" - reality is completely spiritual in its nature.
What are the Experiences of Soul and Spiritual Consciousness?
- LoveWisdomGoodness, Peace, and the deepest Satisfaction
- Love: meaningful and satisfying relationships
- Soul realization: understanding the eternal nature of soul and spirit
- Spiritual realizations: understanding and experiencing interconnectivity and a relationship with the Spirit of all Life
- HELM Guided Self-Development Program
- The Souls Fall in Spiritual Ignorance and Darkness
- Crown Center: Considering soul and God
- Formation of Attention Seeking Behavior
- Heart Center: Social and Collective Considerations
- Integration of the Seven Centers
- Personality Disorder
- Purification: soul