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EMOTION

DEFINITION

Emotion: "Definable changes in body chemistry due to physical and/or mental stimulation."

Our full emotional repertoire must be accepted and understood.

No emotion is either good or bad. All emotions have a logical and rational cause and function and all emotions are definable, allowing us to name and catalogue them for future reference, and to understand and deal with them as they arise.

There is nothing WRONG with ANY emotion. All emotions are natural and serve a function. Problems may occur when emotions become neurotic: persistent, distorted, repressed, misunderstood, badly managed, and overwhelming for long periods of time, out of balance, and not relevant to the present experiences and situations.

A habitual repressive response to our emotions generally leads to a state of emotional dulling, flattening of feelings, reduced emotional repertoire, and eventually depression. This is because we are telling the mind to persistently stop our emotions and eventually this actually affects our nervous system so that is learns not to feel. Depression is very commonly an expression of this flattening of emotion. We can begin to overcome depression by understanding our emotions, to "face and embrace" all our emotions, knowing that they cannot harm us, unless we choose to harm ourselves. Our fear of our emotions leads to the construction of a psychological structure in our mind that "depresses" our emotions, which leads to psycho-emotional problems and, of course, the experiences of depression.

It must also be understood that there are many types of depression and some of the types are actually medical conditions; damaged or genetically inherited conditions of the nervous system. If you suffer from depression, think about how you manage your emotions and also consult your Doctor concerning it. Anti-depressants can begin to get our nervous sytem working better so that we can begin to effectively understand and deal with our problems. If you have suffered depression consistently for more than two weeks then it is time to consult your Doctor and also to review your life and the manner in which you manage your emotions. Most types of depression can be overcome or at least reduced by a course of anti-depressants, counselling, and becoming "emotionally knowledgeable."

When we understand our full emotional spectrum, then we can learn how to master them, applying that which is appropriate to the appropriate situation.

Emotions are experienced on a gradient of intensity (1 - 100%).

Sometimes our emotions can be linked to important life events and issues and it can take time to process them - to work them out of our system.

Most of our emotional responses are rooted in our social/emotional mammalian mind which has appeared through millions of years of evolution.

RECOMMENDED READING
  • Emotional Intelligence: Daniel Goleman: ISBN 0-7475-2830

EMOTIONS AND THE SEVEN CHAKRAS

We can broadly catagorise our emotions to our seven chakras. Our heart chakra is the place where we experience "Higher Emotions" and attitudes; care, affection, kindness, considering others, empathy, compassion, selfless love. The other centers (particularly the three lower centers) have their own repective emotional repetoire.

When the heart chakra is not functioning properly then we experience a selfish emotional repetoire (the isolated lower self of egotism) because it is the heart chakra that introduces considering others and selflessness (higher emotions) into our personality and experience.

The mechanics of egotism are beautifully explained in the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, book 2, sutra 3.


EMOTIONS AND HORMONES

Our lower emotions (the emotions of the three lower chakras) are often automatic and are controlled by hormones that are secreted from their respective glands, into the blood stream, and produce an immediate emotional response. For example, anger, fear, and the stress response are controlled by the adrenal glands. When we are startled, stressed, or frustrated then the adrenal glands secrete adrenal into the bloodstream and we have an immediate strong emotion of "fight or flight". That is why, if we become angry or are getting stressed, we should have a glass of water and do some relaxation breathing to calm the system down and help dilute and flush our the adrenal from our bloodstream.

We can learn to master our lower emotions by understanding them and learning how to apply the opposite attitude towards the emotion. For example, calm is the opposite of anger, wishing others well is the opposite hatred, and being pleased at the good fortune of others is the opposite of envy, jealousy, and covetousness.

We can also learn about how our diet influences our emotions. For example, alcohol stimulates our sexuality, this is why they say that alcohol "stokes the fires of lust". Caffeine and nicotine stimulates our adrenal glands and makes us more stressed and angry.


BECOMING AWARE OF OUR EMOTIONAL SPECTRUM

The bell shaped curve of statistical averages. Extreme negative on the left. Extreme positive on the right. If we act from any of the extremes then the consequences are likely to be negative. This is true for actions based upon our emotions.

  1. Identify how we are feeling - what emotions we are experiencing.
  2. Embrace all our emotions. Say 'hi' to all our emotions as they arise, familiarise yourself with them, embrace them all, and learn how to manage and express them appropriately.
  3. Understand how emotions influence our behaviour.
  4. Learn to manage our emotions.
  5. Learn to control the intensity of our emotions.
  6. Learn how to communicate our emotional experiences in appropriate, adult, and civilized ways.

We can categorize emotions into primary categories as follows:

  • Fear and security
  • Like and dislike
  • Desire and aversion
  • Happy and unhappy
  • Selfish and altruistic
  • Accepting and rejecting
  • Calm and upset
  • Appointment and disappointment
  • Extroverted and introverted
  • Doubt and certainty
  • Interested and tired/depressed
  • Social and unsocial
  • Pleasure and pain

These primary emotional types are constructed from a mixture of basic component emotions.


EMOTIONAL CATEGORIES AND THEIR COMPONENTS:
Contents:
  1. Acceptance
  2. Anger
  3. Anti-social
  4. Aversion
  5. Awe
  6. Blame
  7. Calm
  8. Confused
  9. Contempt
  10. Contentment
  11. Cruel
  12. Defensive
  13. Depressed
  14. Desire
  15. Disappointment
  16. Distressed
  17. Doubt
  18. Envy
  19. Empathy
  20. Extroverted
  21. Fear
  22. Greed
  23. Grief
  24. Guilt
  25. Harmful
  26. Happy
  27. Hate
  28. Hostile
  29. Introverted
  30. Impatience
  31. Irritated
  32. Jealousy
  33. Lazy
  34. Lonely
  35. Loss
  36. Love
  37. Lust
  38. Optimistic
  39. Passive
  40. Peaceful
  41. Pessimistic
  42. Pity
  43. Remorse
  44. Regret
  45. Resentment
  46. Sad
  47. Self pity
  48. Shame
  49. Social
  50. Sorrow
  51. Stressed
  52. Tired
  53. Unhappy
  54. Vanity
  55. Violent
  56. Worried

 

ACCEPTANCE
  1. Calm
  2. Weary
  3. Tired
  4. Apathy
  5. Boredom
  6. Cool
  7. Comfort
  8. Confident
  9. Depressed
  10. Disappointment
  11. Empathy
  12. Forgiveness
  13. Gratitude
  14. Peace
  15. Patience
  16. Relaxed

ANGER
  1. Irritated
  2. Annoyed
  3. Frustration
  4. Upset
  5. Hurt
  6. Misunderstood
  7. Injustice
  8. Revenge
  9. Anxiety
  10. Worry
  11. Arousal
  12. Bitter
  13. Depressed
  14. Disgust
  15. Hate
  16. Aversion
  17. Jealousy
  18. Envy
  19. Fear
  20. Despair
  21. Indignation
  22. Fury
  23. Offended
  24. Grief
  25. Pain
  26. Panic
  27. Pride (egotistical)
  28. Rage
  29. Recklessness
  30. Resentment
  31. Sourness
  32. Temper
  33. Tension
  34. Upset
  35. Unhappy
  36. Vulnerable
  37. Worry

ANTI-SOCIAL
  1. Ambivalence
  2. Apathy
  3. Bitter
  4. Sour
  5. Bored
  6. Confused
  7. Anger
  8. Hate
  9. Depressed
  10. Aversion
  11. Dread
  12. Fear
  13. Embarrassment
  14. Envy
  15. Greed
  16. Jealous
  17. Despair
  18. Irritated
  19. Lonely
  20. Cruel
  21. Narcissistic
  22. Paranoia
  23. Lust
  24. Selfish
  25. Pride (egotistical)
  26. Resentment
  27. Rejected
  28. Rage
  29. Reckless
  30. Selfish
  31. Stressed
  32. Shy
  33. Temper
  34. Terror
  35. Upset
  36. Unhappy

AVERSION
  1. Agitated
  2. Annoyed
  3. Frustrated
  4. Upset
  5. Anger
  6. Hate
  7. Anxiety
  8. Dread
  9. Apprehension
  10. Bored
  11. Confused
  12. Fear
  13. Depressed
  14. Disgust
  15. Distaste
  16. Horror
  17. Irritated
  18. Negative
  19. Pain
  20. Panic
  21. Phobia
  22. Reject
  23. Stress
  24. Resentment
  25. Shy
  26. Sour
  27. Suffering
  28. Tension
  29. Terror
  30. Uncertain
  31. Unhappy
  32. Upset
  33. Violent
  34. Vulnerable
  35. Worry

AWE
  1. Amazement
  2. Amusement
  3. Aroused
  4. Astonished
  5. Discovery
  6. Elation
  7. Enthusiasm
  8. Mystery
  9. Gladness
  10. Rapture
  11. Surprise
  12. Wonder

CALM
  1. Certain
  2. Comfort
  3. Confident
  4. Content
  5. Cool
  6. Patient
  7. Peace
  8. Peaceful
  9. Pleasure
  10. Relaxed
  11. Relief


CONTEMPT
  1. Agitated
  2. Anger
  3. Dislike
  4. Annoyed
  5. Anxiety
  6. Jealous
  7. Envy
  8. Aversion
  9. Bitter
  10. Cruel
  11. Disgust
  12. Distaste
  13. Fear
  14. Hate
  15. Insecure
  16. Negative
  17. Offended
  18. Phobic
  19. Rage
  20. Resentment
  21. Sour
  22. Unhappy
  23. Upset
  24. Violent

CONTENTMENT
  1. Calm
  2. Comfort
  3. Confident
  4. Cool
  5. Familiarity
  6. Glad
  7. Peaceful
  8. Relaxed
  9. Secure
  10. Well-being


DEFENSIVE
  1. Agitated
  2. Annoyed
  3. Anxiety
  4. Apprehensive
  5. Aroused
  6. Aversion
  7. Confused
  8. Cross
  9. Despair
  10. Dislike
  11. Embarrassment
  12. Fear
  13. Guilt
  14. Hate
  15. Hostility
  16. Hurt
  17. Insecure
  18. Irritated
  19. Nervous
  20. Pain
  21. Panic
  22. Paranoia
  23. Phobic
  24. Pride (egotistical)
  25. Stress
  26. Temper
  27. Tension
  28. Trauma
  29. Uncertain
  30. Upset
  31. Vulnerable
  32. Worry

DEPRESSED
  1. Apathy
  2. Bored
  3. Confusion
  4. Despair
  5. Disgust
  6. Fatigued
  7. Fear
  8. Frustrated
  9. Guilt
  10. Hate
  11. Hurt
  12. Irritable
  13. Jealous
  14. Pessimistic
  15. Rejection
  16. Remorse
  17. Shame
  18. Shock
  19. Sorrow
  20. Stuck
  21. Suffering
  22. Tension
  23. Tired
  24. Too many problems
  25. Unloved
  26. Unloving
  27. Vulnerability
  28. Weariness
  29. Worry


DESIRE
  1. Agitated
  2. Amused
  3. Interested
  4. Aroused
  5. Curiosity
  6. Enthusiasm
  7. Excitement
  8. Greed
  9. Happiness
  10. Hope
  11. Like
  12. Lust
  13. Mystery
  14. Narcissistic
  15. Optimistic
  16. Reckless
  17. Selfish
  18. Selfish
  19. Tension
  20. Wonder


DISAPPOINTMENT
  1. Anger
  2. Annoyed
  3. Aversion
  4. Bitter
  5. Confused
  6. Cross
  7. Depressed
  8. Despair
  9. Despondent
  10. Dislike
  11. Frustrated
  12. Hurt
  13. Indignant
  14. Negative
  15. Offended
  16. Pain
  17. Pity
  18. Rage
  19. Regret
  20. Rejection
  21. Sadness
  22. Shock
  23. Sorrow
  24. Sour
  25. Stress
  26. Tired
  27. Traumatized
  28. Unhappy
  29. Upset
  30. Weary
  31. Worry

DISTRESSED/UPSET/WORRIED
  1. Affinity
  2. Agitated
  3. Anger
  4. Anguish
  5. Annoyed
  6. Anxiety
  7. Apathy
  8. Apprehension
  9. Aversion
  10. Bitter
  11. Compassion
  12. Cross
  13. Defensive
  14. Depressed
  15. Despair
  16. Despondent
  17. Disappointed
  18. Disturbed
  19. Dread
  20. Embarrassment
  21. Empathy
  22. Envy
  23. Fear
  24. Frustrated
  25. Fury
  26. Grief
  27. Hate
  28. Hostile
  29. Insecure
  30. Jealous
  31. Misery
  32. Negative
  33. Nervous
  34. Offended
  35. Pain
  36. Panic
  37. Paranoia
  38. Pity
  39. Pride (egotistical)
  40. Rage
  41. Regret
  42. Rejection
  43. Remorse
  44. Resentment
  45. Sad
  46. Shame
  47. Sorrow
  48. Sour
  49. Stressed
  50. Tension
  51. Terror
  52. Tired
  53. Traumatized
  54. Unhappy
  55. Upset
  56. Violent
  57. Vulnerable
  58. Weary
  59. Worry

DOUBT
  1. Agitated
  2. Ambivalent
  3. Annoyed
  4. Anxiety
  5. Confused
  6. Depressed
  7. Despondent
  8. Disturbed
  9. Fear
  10. Hesitant
  11. Insecure
  12. Irritated
  13. Miserable
  14. Negative
  15. Pain
  16. Paranoid
  17. Rejection
  18. Remorse
  19. Sorrow
  20. Uncertain
  21. Unhappy
  22. Unsure
  23. Upset

EXTROVERTED
  1. Affinity
  2. Amused
  3. Aroused
  4. Cheerful
  5. Confident
  6. Courage
  7. Curiosity
  8. Desire
  9. Discovery
  10. Elation
  11. Empathy
  12. Excitement
  13. Familiarity
  14. Friendly
  15. Happiness
  16. Hope
  17. Joy
  18. Kindness
  19. Like
  20. Motivated
  21. Mystery
  22. Optimistic
  23. Patriotic
  24. Pleasure
  25. Pride (based on achievements)
  26. Relaxed
  27. Secure
  28. Social
  29. Togetherness
  30. Well-being
  31. Wonder

GRIEF
  1. Affinity
  2. Anger
  3. Anguish
  4. Annoyed
  5. Anxiety
  6. Apathy
  7. Aversion
  8. Bitter
  9. Confused
  10. Cross
  11. Depressed
  12. Despair
  13. Despondent
  14. Disappointment
  15. Disturbed
  16. Dread
  17. Empathy
  18. Fear
  19. Frustrated
  20. Guilt
  21. Horror
  22. Hurt
  23. Insecure
  24. Lonely
  25. Loss
  26. Misery
  27. Negative
  28. Pain
  29. Panic
  30. Regret
  31. Remorse
  32. Sadness
  33. Shock
  34. Sorrow
  35. Stressed
  36. Tired
  37. Uncertain
  38. Unhappy
  39. Upset
  40. Vulnerable
  41. Weary
  42. Worried

HAPPY
  1. Amused
  2. Calm
  3. Certain
  4. Cheerful
  5. Comfortable
  6. Confident
  7. Content
  8. Delight
  9. Elation
  10. Enthusiasm
  11. Glad
  12. Gratitude
  13. Hope
  14. Joy
  15. Kindness
  16. Love
  17. Optimistic
  18. Peaceful
  19. Pride (achievement based)
  20. Secure
  21. Social
  22. Well-being

HOSTILE/AGGRESSIVE
  1. Agitated
  2. Anger
  3. Annoyed
  4. Anxiety
  5. Apprehensive
  6. Aroused
  7. Aversion
  8. Confused
  9. Cross
  10. Cruel
  11. Depressed
  12. Despair
  13. Disappointment
  14. Dislike
  15. Dread
  16. Envy
  17. Fear
  18. Frustration
  19. Fury
  20. Greed
  21. Hate
  22. Horror
  23. Hurt
  24. Indignation
  25. Irritated
  26. Jealous
  27. Lust
  28. Offended
  29. Pain
  30. Panic
  31. Paranoia
  32. Patriotic
  33. Phobic
  34. Pride (egotistical)
  35. Rage
  36. Resentment
  37. Selfish
  38. Sour
  39. Stressed
  40. Suffering
  41. Tension
  42. Terror
  43. Uncertain
  44. Unhappy
  45. Upset
  46. Violent
  47. Vulnerable
  48. Worried

INTROVERTED
  1. Aversion
  2. Content
  3. Dejected
  4. Depressed
  5. Fear
  6. Happy
  7. Humility
  8. Lonely
  9. Modesty
  10. Nervous
  11. Paranoid
  12. Peaceful
  13. Privacy
  14. Wonder


IRRITATED
  1. Agitated
  2. Angry
  3. Anguish
  4. Annoyed
  5. Anxiety
  6. Aversion
  7. Confused
  8. Depressed
  9. Disappointment
  10. Doubt
  11. Envy
  12. Frustrated
  13. Hate
  14. Jealous
  15. Offended
  16. Pain
  17. Stressed
  18. Stressed
  19. Tired
  20. Uncertain
  21. Weary
  22. Worried

LONELY
  1. Agitated
  2. Anguish
  3. Anxiety
  4. Aversion
  5. Confused
  6. Dejected
  7. Depressed
  8. Despair
  9. Despondent
  10. Disappointment
  11. Doubt
  12. Dread
  13. Fear
  14. Frustrated
  15. Hurt
  16. Insecure
  17. Pain
  18. Panic
  19. Rejected
  20. Sad
  21. Self-pity
  22. Shy
  23. Suffering
  24. Tired
  25. Unhappy
  26. Vulnerable
  27. Worried

LOVE
  1. Affectionate
  2. Affinity
  3. Comfortable
  4. Compassion
  5. Content
  6. Delight
  7. Devotion
  8. Empathy
  9. Friendly
  10. Glad
  11. Happy
  12. Joy
  13. Kindness
  14. Like
  15. Patient
  16. Togetherness
  17. Well-being

OPTIMISTIC
  1. Cheerful
  2. Confident
  3. Courage
  4. Enthusiasm
  5. Hope
  6. Well-being

PASSIVE
  1. Apathy
  2. Bored
  3. Calm
  4. Comfortable
  5. Content
  6. Dejected
  7. Depressed
  8. Despair
  9. Despondent
  10. Patient
  11. Relaxed
  12. Relief
  13. Timid
  14. Tired
  15. Uncertain

PESSIMISTIC
  1. Agitated
  2. Ambivalent
  3. Anger
  4. Anguish
  5. Annoyed
  6. Apathy
  7. Aversion
  8. Bitter
  9. Bored
  10. Cowardice
  11. Dejected
  12. Depressed
  13. Despair
  14. Despondent
  15. Disappointment
  16. Doubt
  17. Dread
  18. Fear
  19. Frustration
  20. Negative
  21. Pain
  22. Regret
  23. Rejection
  24. Resentment
  25. Self-pity
  26. Sour
  27. Sour
  28. Tired
  29. Uncertain
  30. Weary
  31. Worried

REMORSE
  1. Anger
  2. Anguish
  3. Bitter
  4. Depressed
  5. Guilt
  6. Humility
  7. Regret
  8. Repentance
  9. Sad
  10. Shame
  11. Sorrow
  12. Sour

RESENTMENT
  1. Anger
  2. Anxiety
  3. Depressed
  4. Distressed
  5. Hate
  6. Hurt
  7. Upset
  8. Sour

SAD
  1. Affinity
  2. Compassion
  3. Dejected
  4. Depressed
  5. Despair
  6. Despondent
  7. Disappointment
  8. Empathy
  9. Grief
  10. Guilt
  11. Hurt
  12. Lonely
  13. Regret
  14. Remorse
  15. Shame
  16. Sorrow
  17. Sympathy
  18. Tired
  19. Unhappy
  20. Upset
  21. Vulnerable
  22. Worried

SELF-PITY
  1. Analytical
  2. Egotistical
  3. Introverted
  4. Narcissism
  5. Self absorption
  6. Self centered

Self pity


SOCIAL
  1. Friendly
  2. Warm
  3. Like
  4. Accommodating
  5. Seeking company
  6. Playful
  7. Forgiving
  8. Tolerant
  9. Patient
  10. Good humored
  11. Affinity
  12. Empathy
  13. Compassion
  14. Love
  15. Communicative
  16. Understanding

STRESSED
  1. Agitated
  2. Anger
  3. Anguish
  4. Anticipation
  5. Anxiety
  6. Apprehensive
  7. Aversion
  8. Courage
  9. Cross
  10. Depressed
  11. Disappointment
  12. Disturbed
  13. Doubt
  14. Dread
  15. Embarrassment
  16. Expectation
  17. Fear
  18. Frustrated
  19. Fury
  20. Grief
  21. Misery
  22. Negative
  23. Offended
  24. Pain
  25. Panic
  26. Phobic
  27. Rage
  28. Resentment
  29. Shock
  30. Suffering
  31. Tension
  32. Terror
  33. Tired
  34. Traumatized
  35. Uncertain
  36. Upset
  37. Vulnerable
  38. Weary
  39. Worried

TIRED
  1. Apathy
  2. Aversion
  3. Bored
  4. Confused
  5. Dejected
  6. Depressed
  7. Despair
  8. Despondent
  9. Disappointment
  10. Doubt
  11. Fatigue
  12. Fear
  13. Frustration
  14. Grief
  15. Hurt
  16. Negative
  17. Relaxed
  18. Relief
  19. Stressed
  20. Suffering
  21. Tension
  22. Unhappy
  23. Weary
  24. Worry

unhappy
  1. Depressed
  2. Dysphoria
  3. Regret
  4. Remorse
  5. Sad
  6. Tired
  7. Vice
  8. Worried

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

All emotions are simply a feedback system that tells us about our relationship with the world. All emotions have a valid and useful function that is why we have them. To deny any of the full spectrum of emotional responses is to split your wholeness. All our feelings are giving us important feedback about the conditions in our lives and need to be respected and listened to.

There are three simple categories of human emotions.

1. Desire - Positive feelings towards circumstances we feel will bring happiness.
2. Aversion   - Negative feelings towards circumstances we feel will bring unhappiness.
3. Neutral   - Unattached, cool, calm, collected, emotionally controlled, emotionally uninvolved.

It is from these categories that all other emotions arise.

For example, the employee who feels fear (aversion) at facing their boss the next day.

The major problem with emotions is our lack of intelligent understanding and display, and cases of neurotic (irrational and unexplainable) emotional behavior; ie: unnatural, persistent, abnormal, repressed, unnecessarily extreme, unbalanced, and unnecessarily unreasonable (for example,  race hatred and other prejudice).

The repression of normal emotions leads to depression - literally to hold down.

Because most people are untrained in the skill of understanding emotions, we generally repress emotions which causes tension and anxiety (stress) throughout the human system. This tension and anxiety leads to all manner of manic/depressive complaints and emotional disorder that eventually result in discomfort and disease.

To be intelligent about our emotions means that we must learn to acknowledge how we feel. To begin with, this is like penetrating a dense dark cloud of confusion, but eventually with practice, we learn to tune into and understand our emotional behaviour. To do this, we must be completely honest about how we feel, accepting all those uncomfortable and so called "negative" emotions that many people have been taught to ignore.

Emotional intelligence means that we acknowledge every emotion in the full spectrum of human emotional behaviour, realizing that all things have a purpose. For example, the emotion of strong aversion that some people call "hatred" has a much a use as that of "love" - it informs us that we have a strong aversion to something and that we need to look into the matter.

It is preferable to completely acknowledge how we really feel. In this manner, our emotions will server us with important feedback about how we feel about our life. We have emotions for definite and logical reasons.

Don’t hide from your emotions – acknowledge them all and let yourself feel your response to your environment and the people in it. Don’t think that you shouldn’t think or feel certain ways towards certain people just because you have been told not to. Emotions serve us with important information about our interactivity with the world.

All emotions are simply a feedback system that tells us about our relationship with the world.

Each chakra has definite emotional issues and characteristics. For example, the base chakra deals with greed, survival insecurity and fear, and hording.

 

EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL.

A control mechanism. A person controls another person by creating a strong conditional (based upon the others behavior) atmosphere of “approval and disapproval.” For example; John is the controller and Jane is the controlled. When Jane does something that John doesn’t like he creates an atmosphere of disapproval that influences what Jane feels about showing that behavior in the future. Basically, John withholds his loving feelings when Jane does anything that offends his preferences. This no good. What John should do is to communicate his feelings of discomfort concerning Jane’s behavior and open up a discussion so that both sides can reach an agreeable middle ground.

Controlling people are bad communicators and don’t know how to discuss or negotiate with other people. They want their own way all the time and may have been spoiled as children where they discovered that they could exert power over their parents by adopting these social strategies.


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